Tuesday, 28 June 2016

Nigerian artist Emefiele: 'My glasses protect women'

Nigerian visual artist Ndidi Emefiele uses recycled materials to explore the issue of gender inequality.
Her ongoing series Rainbow depicts women in glasses made from used CDs that change colour according to the light.
Her work is currently on display at the Gallery of African Art in London.

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Please Dear, Not Tonight, Is this a lack of sexual awareness?

Relationship Problem: Sex

Even partners who love each other can be a mismatch, sexually. Mary Jo Fay, author of Please Dear, Not Tonight, says a lack of sexual self-awareness and education worsens these problems. But having sex is one of the last things you should give up, Fay says. "Sex," she says, "brings us closer together, releases hormones that help our bodies both physically and mentally, and keeps the chemistry of a healthy couple healthy."

Problem-solving strategies:
  • Plan, plan, plan. Fay suggests making an appointment, but not necessarily at night when everyone is tired. Maybe during the baby's Saturday afternoon nap or a "before-work quickie." Ask friends or family to take the kids every other Friday night for a sleepover. "When sex is on the calendar, it increases your anticipation," Fay says. Changing things up a bit can make sex more fun, too, she says. Why not have sex in the kitchen? Or by the fire? Or standing up in the hallway?
  • Learn what truly turns you and your partner on by each of you coming up with a personal "Sexy List," suggests California psychotherapist Allison Cohen. Swap the lists and use them to create more scenarios that turn you both on.
  • If your sexual relationship problems can't be resolved on your own, Fay recommends consulting a qualified sex therapist to help you both address and resolve your issues.
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Relationship breakdown: Let's talk about it!

1 Common Solution That Can Save a Relationship
It's the rare couple that doesn't run into a few bumps in the road. If you recognize ahead of time, though, what those relationship problems might be, you'll have a much better chance of getting past them.

Even though every relationship has its ups and downs, successful couples have learned how to manage the bumps and keep their love life going. They hang in there, tackle problems, and learn how to work through the complex issues of everyday life. Many do this by reading self-help books and articles, attending seminars, going to counseling, observing other successful couples, or simply using trial and error.

Relationship Problem: Communication

All relationship problems stem from poor communication, according to Elaine Fantle Shimberg, author of Blending Families. "You can't communicate while you're checking your BlackBerry, watching TV, or flipping through the sports section," she says.

Problem-solving strategies:
  • Make an actual appointment with each other, Shimberg says. If you live together, put the cell phones on vibrate, put the kids to bed, and let voicemail pick up your calls.
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  • If you can't "communicate" without raising your voices, go to a public spot like the library, park, or restaurant where you'd be embarrassed if anyone saw you screaming.
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  • Set up some rules. Try not to interrupt until your partner is through speaking, or ban phrases such as "You always ..." or "You never ...."
  • Use body language to show you're listening. Don’t doodle, look at your watch, or pick at your nails. Nod so the other person knows you're getting the message, and rephrase if you need to. For instance, say, "What I hear you saying is that you feel as though you have more chores at home, even though we're both working." If you're right, the other can confirm. If what the other person really meant was, "Hey, you're a slob and you create more work for me by having to pick up after you," he or she can say so, but in a nicer way.
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Bitch Stole My Look! Kendall Jenner & Gigi Hadid Are Twinning in Jeans and Black Tops, But Who Wore It Best?

Gigi Hadid, Kendall Jenner

While out and about in London this week, besties Gigi Hadid and Kendall Jenner were seriously twinning in almost identical outfits. Both of the supermodels looked fab in faded blue jeans and black tops with matching black choker necklaces and black boots.

The gal-pals were basically mirror images from head to toe except for the fact that Gigi's jeans were wide-legged and Kendall's were skinny and tight. Gigi also added a black Hermes belt to her ensemble with aviator glasses.

As for Kendall, the Keeping Up With the Kardashians star opted to not wear a bra so her sheer top exposed her boobs and nipple ring. Sexy!

So who modeled the jeans and black top look best? You decide!

Who rocked the blue jeans and black top ensemble best?


Enter your vote in the comment box under this post!

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A nurse killed a 10-year old girl by botched insertion of stomach tube

Carrie-Anne Nash, who denies manslaughter, ignored danger signs after pushing tube into 10-year-old, jury told

Phoebe Willis
Phoebe Willis needed a feeding tube because she suffered from cystinosis, a rare genetic condition, the court heard. Photograph: Bristol Post/SWNS.com

A 10-year-old girl was killed by a nurse who botched the insertion of a feeding tube into her stomach and then ignored danger signs in defiance of national guidelines, a court has heard.

Phoebe Willis screamed in pain and started bleeding when Carrie-Anne Nash pushed the tube in despite feeling something blocking its way, a jury was told.
Nash, 34, a paediatric specialist, ignored a series of “red flag” indicators and sent the youngster home, Bristol crown court heard.

When Phoebe’s mother, Heather Willis, fed her milk before putting her to bed that night it seeped into the cavity between her vital organs, which led to blood poisoning.
The next morning Willis dialled 999 after finding Phoebe looking grey but by the time the ambulance arrived her lips were blue and she had gone into cardiac arrest.
Phoebe died the following evening after further cardiac arrests and brain injury. Nash, from Portishead in north Somerset, was charged with her manslaughter three years later. She denies the offence.
The jury heard that the youngster needed a feeding tube because she suffered from cystinosis, a rare genetic condition.
Since her diagnosis as a baby the tube was changed every three months – described as a simple procedure that her parents had been used to carrying out.
But in August 2012 they decided to take Phoebe to Weston general hospital, north Somerset, after they found it unusually difficult to push a new tube in.
None of the medics on shift were qualified to deal with the situation so Nash, a community nurse employed by Nutricia, a pharmaceutical company, was called in to help.

Sarah Whitehouse QC, prosecuting, said Nash repeatedly attempted to insert the device, known as a mini balloon button. She said: “When she finally succeeded, she didn’t make sure the tube attached to the button was where it should be – extending from the abdominal wall and into the stomach.
“She ignored what are called ‘red flag’ indicators which would have warned her that the tube was not in Phoebe’s stomach. Tragically, the tube wasn’t properly placed and so when Phoebe was fed through the tube, milk did not enter her stomach but rested in the cavity between her organs.”
This caused infection, sepsis and, ultimately, the little girl’s death, the court heard.

Whitehouse told the jury: “This is how Ms Nash came to be charged with manslaughter. Not because she intended to kill Phoebe, or wanted Phoebe to die or be harmed in any way. But because she acted contrary to national guidance, contrary to her employer’s safety protocols and contrary to her training.

“Critically, she failed to recognise or act on ‘red flag’ indicators that suggested there was a serious problem with the tube placement. She provided a level of care to Phoebe that was so very far below the standard to be expected of a nurse with her specialist training that it can properly be described as criminal.”
The trial continues.

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